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 Re: Solé's and Ginuwine's Relationship

Solé and Ginuwine kept their relationship on the DL for quite a while and of course there were all kinds of suspicions. Everyone assumed they were together just from the "It Wasn't Me" video, but until now, neither of them actually confirmed the relationship. Well, Solé is now ready to not only admit that theyve been together for over a year, but they are also expecting.

Nikki: So, Miss, now youre ready to admit that you and Ginuwine are an item. You know, I love you to death; youre cool with me, but I knew you were lying when I asked you the last time!

Solé: I know you knew.

Nikki: I figured if you all wanted it to be a secret Id play along.

Solé: Yeah, we all played along. It was so funny because everybody was calling and asking. And now, there are just so many rumors and stuff going around.

Nikki: Yeah, so you might as well come on out with it, huh?

Solé: Yeah.

Nikki: When did the two of you meet?

Solé: We were introduced in June of '99.

Nikki: And how long have the two of you been in a serious relationship?

Solé: When we did the video for "None of UR Friends Business"....I think we taped that in October of '99. So its been over a year since we taped. We were dating and stuff, but we werent like serious and like "thats it" until like December [1999]. So weve been serious for like a year.

Nikki: Why did you all decide to keep it out of the press? I know hes supposed to be "the bachelor" so I figured thats why you all werent saying anything about the relationship.

Solé: Yeah. Thats the main reason. I mean, thats really the only reason. Youre right, he came out as "the bachelor" and with that whole sexy symbol image. His whole career is women driven, so it was just real scary for him to finally be in a real relationship. And then have everybody asking him about it and him being afraid that it would affect his career negatively. For me, I didnt care because Ive always been up front about who I am and what I do or whatever. Im like, either people are going to like it or they dont. Im a real person like everybody else and I wasnt into none of that, so it was real hard for me at first.

Nikki: I can imagine. Youre reading interviews and he has to say no hes not seeing anybody.

Solé: We both agreed that we would say we were just friends. When we first talked about it, when people first started talking about it, we were both just like, "No, were just friends." I mean, I was told by my publicist and everybody to say the same thing"Were just friends." So we did that, but people still asked and people still talked. Then it kinda died down for awhile and it almost went away for a minute. And now that were having a baby... I mean, it was planned. We talked about it. It wasnt an accident that it happened.

Nikki: Oh, you planned to have a baby?

Solé: Yeah, we planned it. I was like, well you know, as hard as it is for me to hear different things being said and people saying this and that, I cant really deal with that and be pregnant. Thats just too much stress. Just let people say whatever they want to say and make whatever conclusions they want to make. Im pregnant and I dont want to be stressed out and emotional and all that. Before I became pregnant we both agreed to say "no comment" because it was just too much. It was stressful for both of us. Then when we decided to try to get pregnant and to have this baby I was like, I cant do it anymore because if we have this baby people are gonna know. People are gonna see me out and theyll see me pregnant. Its out already and I didnt tell anybody but my close friends. But people see me and people talk and it started spreading like wildfire. A few weeks after I found out, people knew. Its just amazing how fast people start talking.

Nikki: Well, I havent heard anything here on the radio about the pregnancy, but yesterday they reported on a station here that you two had broken up.

Solé: Yeah, I heard that, too.

Nikki: They said that Ginuwine said he wanted to date other people and that he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore.

Solé: Yeah, Ive heard crazy stuff, worse stuff than that. Its just been all over the place. Ridiculous stuff from "its not his baby and were breaking up because of that," all kinds of rumors. I heard everything and I just got so tired of it. I told him, "Dang, whoever this is has no life of their own to be sitting up making up stories and rumors." I heard I was married to somebody else. Ive never been married. Its just really sad that somebodys just sitting around trying to make up ways to make me look bad.

Nikki: So aside from all of that, how do the two of you deal with being artists and being in a relationship? I know that you probably have conflicting schedules because hes working on his album and youre working on your album. Then youre both parents. So how do you make it work?

Solé: We make it. Believe it or not we see each other a lot and we make it work. Even since its been serious it hasnt been a time that weve been away from each other for more than two weeks. And thats been the longest amount of time that weve spent apart since weve been together. We just make sure we make that a priority. Hes working on his album so I go to L.A. Im going to L.A. Thursday; me and the kids are going. Well be out there for a week and then Ill come back here and work on my album. Ill work a few days here and then go back out there. Its just back and forth, back and forth. Most of the time when hes doing shows Ill either go with him and Ill be in a hotel, or either hell come out when Im somewhere. We just make it work. We really go out of our way to make it work. Its real hard now to be away for any length of time.

Nikki: You miss your boo-boo?!!! [Laughing] So how do you deal with all of these screaming Ginuwine fans? Ive interviewed G like three times and I ask him about the fans and hes told me some crazy things about women grabbing his jewelry and things like that. How do you deal with that?

Solé: We go out all the time. We go to the movies, we go out to eat. I mean, were always out doing something, but they dont do that when Im there. People will come up to him and say hi or theyll ask if they can have a hug or have an autograph or whatever. And they do the same to me when were together. But I havent really experienced anybody just being blatantly disrespectful or doing anything like that when Im with him.
Nikki: Well, thats good because you really dont need that stress now.

Solé: But I keep it all in perspective because I know what he does and I know what goes along with that because Im in the same business. If were out in the streets people dont come up screaming and grabbing on him. Its not like how it is at a show or at an event where he has to make an appearance. At things like that I step back or either Ill stay at a hotel and dont go because I dont want to make him feel uncomfortable like he cant be friendly to his fans. Women dont want to see me there. Theyre coming to the show to see him, so a lot of times Ill stay in the back. He works and then we leave. Its not that bad.

Nikki: Arent you a good little woman! [Laughing] I guess it helps that youre in the same industry.

Solé: Yeah, I dont know, If I hadnt been on the road, and been in the same position, I probably wouldnt understand and be as tolerant as I am on a lot of things. Its hard. He probably wouldnt be either of me if he wasnt in the business. I think thats the upside of both of us being in the business. One of the negatives is that we dont have privacy and everybodys saying whatever they want to say, negatively or positively. Our relationship is something thats supposed to be private.

Nikki: I know thats right. But you know, people have said to me that when they see the two of you together they know you two are in love. When do you think that you really fell for him? How did you know he was the one?

Solé: Its funny cause when we first started seeing each other, my cousin Nancy, who is one of my close friends, was like, "Hes the one. I just got a feeling." And I was like, "Noooo. No hes not." I was like, were just kicking it. I was like I had to worry about my career. I dont think until probably a couple months after that, I mean, we really started liking each other. But I dont think it was until probably around December or early this year that it was really gonna be a real relationship.

Nikki: But thats how it is. Its always the ones you least expect. They sneak up on you and the next thing you know youre all in love. Then youre like, "I wouldve never guessed."

Solé: Yeah, and I wasnt trying to date. I didnt want to date another artist and I didnt want to deal with everything that went along with it. I was just thinking of all the worst things, like he aint gon' act right, he gon' be a dog... And I was wrong. I was completely wrong.

Nikki: What makes him different from the other guys that youve dated? The last time that I interviewed you, you told me about this guy that you were dating and you told me that it wasnt a good situation. So obviously G's got to be the opposite of that guy.

Solé: Yeah, I mean, he is like I cant even explain. He loves me. I know that he truly, with everything in him, loves me. He would do anything for me. He would die for me. He would kill somebody for me. Hes just so sweet. Everything he does, he makes sure Im straight first. I asked him about doing this interview before I did it. I didnt want to say anything because I didnt want to hurt his career. I dont want anything bad to happen to him or his career. Thats another love of his, too. I definitely didnt want to be the one to come along and he doesnt sell as many records anymore and they all point the finger at our relationship. Thats the last thing I wanted. But again, we talked about this before I got pregnant.

Nikki: But you know I understand from one perspective how coming out with your relationship, people feel that that could affect your record sales. But you have to look at the artists who are out there that are married. Women dont care if theyre married. Look at LL, women still love him and hes married.

Solé: Yeah, they feel like, oh I can take him away. Whatever. But [Ginuwine] and some of his label people feel that way about it. I didnt necessarily feel that way. I dont know how it will affect his career. I dont know if it will. I think thats bad and stupid if it does because as long as his music is the same, and hes doing what hes been doing, and hes still the same performer, then what difference does it make? Hes still a grown man. People cant expect that hes gonna be by himself for the rest of his life. That hes never gonna fall in love and thats hes never gonna have children and not do all those things. Thats selfish for people to look at us like that and expect that.

Credit: Sister 2 Sister Magazine.

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